Fling Or
The Real Thing?
How do you really know if it is lust or
love. In a life time the average person
falls in love at least 4 times. But is it
really love? Here are a few signs to be
aware of before you decide if he is the
right one.
Communication
Being honest with each other in a
relationship is very important and it is
also important that you get to know the
person properly before you commit yourself.
How well do you know him/her? Is the only
talking you do bedroom talk?
Good signs
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You talk openly about life issues such as finances,
children, things that frighten you,
where you want your life to go.
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You can argue and come to some sort of compromise at
the end of it. Better still you argue,
it proves that you have the ability to
talk.
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You are open and honest with each other about your
feelings.
Warning signs
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You only know his favorite color, what paper he reads.
You are afraid to ask him in-depth
questions about his life for fear of
rejection or what you might find out.
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You don't discuss how you are feeling with each other
and it builds up inside you, often
causing resentment of each other.
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Neither of you is willing to forgive one another.
Love
I don't believe a long lasting
relationship/marriage can survive
without love. So is it love or are you
just kidding yourself?
Good signs
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In a crisis you stand by each other no matter what the
result.
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You make sacrifices to make the other person happy.
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You are truthful and honest and don't keep secrets
from one another.
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You are emotionally, physically and mentally
compatible.
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You are friends as well as lovers.
Warning signs
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When the going gets tough, he/she gets going.
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He has an eye for the ladies and has proved to be
untrustworthy.
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He/She lies to you about where he/she has been and
only confesses when you find out the
truth.
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There is little physical affection, laughter, or
communication between the two of you.
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He/She has been unfaithful on numerous occasions.
Respect
A relationship is about friendship, respect,
and acceptance of one another. When there is
lack of respect for the other, trust and
respect is replaced by suspicion and can
slowly grow to hatred.
Good signs
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You are aware of your partner's faults and are able to
accept some imperfections.
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You support and encourage each other’s individual
interests and identity.
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You take the time to listen and understand the other's
point of view.
Warning signs
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You criticize each other in front of others.
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He/She will not give you space to indulge in your
interests and wants to spend every
minute of the day with you.
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You are constantly struggling to live up to his/her
standards or the person you think he/she
wants you to be.
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You can't forgive and/or forget each others mistakes.
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