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Swingers
So you're interested in
joining the Swingers Scene?
Although Swinging is not for everyone, all
kinds of people from all walks of life enjoy
the Swingers Scene.
One of the main reasons that people become
Swingers, is to explore and share sexual
fantasies with other people, and of course
make new friends in the process.
If you're considering joining the Swingers
Scene, one of the biggest hurdles you will
have to cross, is jealousy! Because jealousy
is such a destructive emotion, this can
cause great problems between couples further
down the line. The most important thing to
consider before getting involved with other
Swingers, is each other. Make sure that you
discuss things clearly with your partner
about what you want out of swinging, and why
you want to be a swinger, and set out some
guidelines & stick to them.
If there is something that you are not happy
with or feel uneasy about, speak up,
don't put up!.
You should never force or push your partner
into Swinging. If one of you is keener
than the other then you obviously need to
discuss things further, until you are both
100% happy that leading a Swingers Lifestyle
is right for you.
Lots of couples have some inhibitions,
especially if they are new to the Swingers
Scene, but you can overcome this by keeping
the lines of communication open and by being
honest with your partner, and with other
potential swinging couples.
Most couples start their swingers life off
by trying the "Soft Swingers Approach" where
each couple have sex with their own partner,
although both couples are in the same room -
they can watch each other.
Once you've had experience as "Soft
Swingers", and provided both partners found
it enjoyable, then they commonly move on to
a full swap either as "Closed Door Swingers"
- where swinging takes place in separate
rooms or "Open Door Swingers" - where a full
swap may take place with everyone in the
same room.
Swinging is not just exclusive to couples,
there are many single men who wish to join
the Swingers Scene and participate with
other couples to act out their fantasies.
There does, however, seem to be a shortfall
of women, particularly Bi Women. This
generally means that couples looking for
Single Female Swingers need to be persistent
in their search.
Because the internet is a fabulous place to
find other people who have the same
interests/lifestyle as you, consider placing
a few ads on Swingers Community Boards, or
Swingers related sites - Adult Personals &
RoadtoLove.com
Single Male Swingers need to be extra
considerate when approaching couples, in
order to convince them that they should be
allowed the privilege of joining in.
By being persistent, you will get there in
the end.
Couples that accept Single Men to join them,
may do so for the following reasons:-
The first one is because they are looking
for a single man in particular.
Secondly, couples seeking single men prefer
absolute discretion, require that they are
clean (disease free) and have the right
attitude. i.e.:- they are not just after
some fast action.
Thirdly - honesty.
Another important factor to consider are
STD's. (Sexually Transmitted Diseases)
STD's should be a concern to all of us,
particularly to those who are involved in
the Swingers Scene. It is vitally important
that you protect yourself, and others. If
you have been exposed to any diseases in the
past, then it is important that you reveal
it to any other potential Swingers/Partners,
even though you may be disease free now.
Remember that some diseases don't show any
symptoms, so its important to protect
yourself and others at all times! Also
getting yourself tested on a regular basis
is a definite step in the right direction.
Most Swingers have their limits of what they
will and won't do. It is vitally important
that all Swingers are truly honest about
what they like and dislike, as this tends to
make the best swinging experience all round.
If you are curious about joining the
Swingers Scene, then browse the swingers
sites listed.
You will generally find that in order to
browse profiles of Swingers and see full
pictures, you need to join a few sites using
their free membership option. Some of the
sign-ups can be quite long, but worth it.
That way you can be specific about what you
are searching for and it will give you a
much better idea of what is available, and
whether a Swingers Lifestyle is for you.
Happy Swinging!
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