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How to Successfully Pursue
Single Women
Chapter
One - "A Man's Guide to Women"
In our experience and observations, one
thing has become clear: Single women are
much better at the game of seduction than
men are. Women seem to be born with the
instincts, or at least learn them at an
early age, of how to play hard to get, how
to tempt men, and how to master all the
subtleties of male/female pursuit.
Men, on the other hand, seem to be very
ignorant in these matters. The sum total of
most men's expertise in pursuing a single
woman seems to be somewhat related to
hitting her over the head with a club. And
since this technique is no longer accepted,
most men are completely lost and vulnerable
to the manipulative instincts of women.
Hopefully, this book will even the odds for
men.
We
start this chapter with some principles
of
successfully pursuing single women:
1. Playing hard to get is very important.
You must appeal to her power of seduction.
Let her use her sensuality and sexuality to
"catch" you. The important thing is that
once you know a single girl is interested in
you, then you can appeal to her power of
seduction by playing hard to get. Don't call
her every night. Don't make big sexual moves
on her at first. You must appear to be
interested, yet still holding back a bit -
not quite sure if you want the relationship
to go further. Make her feel as though she
has to work harder to convince you that you
do want the relationship to develop.
2. Convince the girl that she is more
interested in you, than you are in her.
Example: End the date
before she does. You've gone to a movie and
are now having a bite to eat at a
restaurant. Instead of letting the date drag
on to that awkward time when she finally
says she has to go home, maintain control of
the evening. While the conversation is still
good, while the date is still going well,
announce that it's getting late and it's
time to go. Tell her that you enjoyed the
evening and that you are looking forward to
getting together again.
This is going to surprise her, since
every other guy thinks, that by some
miracle, if he hangs on long enough that
maybe he'll convince her to have sex with
him. If a girl wants to have sex with you,
she will let you know. So if you haven't
gotten these vibes, end the date while it's
still going well. You'll set yourself apart
from the other guys she's used to. You
demonstrate that you are not easy to get.
Example: Don't rush
things sexually with single women. Appear as
if you are still deciding whether or not you
want to be involved. The first example in
this section of ending a date before she
does, is a great way to accomplish this.
Also, if the mood, the time, the place isn't
right, or it feels the slightest bit
awkward, don't try kissing her for the first
time. If she's interested, the time and
place will come. But, by pushing it, you
risk blowing an important event, you risk
coming off as being desperate for action and
worst of all, you risk appearing
inexperienced and inept. Don't be afraid to
wait until the time is right.
Example: Don't always be
available to do something with her. You have
called a girl and asked her to go to a movie
on Tuesday and she declines. Don't say,
"Well, how about Wednesday?" or "What day
can you make it?" Simply say, "That's too
bad you can't make it. Maybe some other
time. Talk to you later." You have to avoid
making it sound as if you are free any time
she wants you.
3. Don't always do what women expect you
to do. Someone who does exactly what is
expected on cue is boring. By being a little
unpredictable, you become elusive, you keep
women on their toes, wondering about you,
and slightly insecure with respect to where
they stand. If they expect you to try and
make a move sexually - don't. If they expect
you to ask them out for Saturday night, ask
them out for Tuesday night. If they think
you aren't interested, call out of the blue.
If they expect you to call that night, call
the next day.
4. You must convince a girl that she
would be lucky to be with you. You may do
this to a great extent just by properly
presenting yourself with your image.
Examples: Dress as well
or better than her. Be knowledgeable about
the movie, the dinner, the wine, politics,
or whatever. Use all the methods you learned
in the chapter on image, but above all don't
brag about yourself. They've heard "bull"
before and they won't fall for it. Let your
image speak for you. By keeping the
conversation aimed at her, you say a lot
about yourself.
Another way to convince a girl that she
will be lucky to be with you is to play on
her inadequacies. This has to be subtle so
you don't come off as being negative.
Examples: If it comes up
in the conversation that she's never been to
Hawaii, accent the fact with, "Really,
you've never been there? You should go
sometime." If she mentions that she does not
like her job, say, "It's hard to work in
those conditions. You should get out of a
situation that makes you unhappy." If she
mentions a health problem, ask a few
questions about it to accent the fact that
she is not perfect. If she exposes an
insecurity, ask why she lets that bother
her.
5. On the first get-together, talk only
about her - not yourself. By talking about
her, you learn more about her which will be
valuable to you in planning strategy. Also,
it is a subject she will be comfortable
with. By not talking about yourself, you let
your image speak for itself. And don't
forget, the less women know about you, the
more women want to know about you. Be a man
of mystery.
6. Finally, when you first get to know a
girl, it would be better if she suspects
that you are seeing other women as well as
her. It makes you more attractive to her and
she knows she will have to work hard to get
you.
How do you suggest that there are other
women in your life? Just doing all the
things we suggested in this section will
accomplish that: Playing hard to get; not
rushing into sex; not calling every night;
not always being available; and being
unpredictable.
Copyright © 1996, 1997, 1998 by Gemini
Publishing Company.
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