First Date
Checklist
Dr. Dennis W.
Neder
First dates sometimes offer a range of
emotion from thrilling to terrifying! Here
are some tips that will help things go
smoothly:
#1: Be on time! Timeliness is expected, but
being late (or too early) makes a bad
impression. If you can't help being a little
late, call before the expected arrival time.
#2: (for men) Do a "personal check" before
the date - are your fingernails clean, hair
neat, clothes ironed, shoes polished, and
any odors under control (including breath)?
Women look at these things and are aware if
they aren't in check. You should be too!
#3: (for women) Don't overdo the make-up or
perfume! In most cases, a little goes a long
way.
#4: Don't go to the movies, the theatre, or
a concert on your first date - you want to
be able to talk and get to know this person.
#5: Don't "pull out all the stops" - keep it
simple. The first date is more of an
interview than an event.
#6: (for men) Listen! Don't spend all your
time talking about things you already know.
Your goal here is to find out about your
date.
#7: Have something to talk about - read a
newspaper or magazine of general interest.
Try to find common things you both share.
#8: Keep an open mind and don’t argue. You
don’t have to agree with everything your
date says, but where you differ, offer an
alternative idea rather than discounting it,
and if you don’t know something ask!
#9: Remind yourself that you're not nervous,
you’re just excited. Calm confidence is very
appealing!
#10: Have fun! That’s the idea of the first
date.
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