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Dating Tips For Men
Bathe
The worst thing you could do when going out
on a date (especially if it is your first
date with her) is to turn up unshaven and
looking untidy. Women are generally the
cleaner of the species and will judge you on
how hygienic you are, after all you would be
appalled if she turned up for the date
looking scruffy and hadn't bathed for a
while (no offence). It doesn't cost anything
to take a bath and make an effort. Also
remember that bad breath and body odor are
also an instant turn off and she will assume
that this is how you are all the time, even
if you are just having a bad day (hey girls
have bad hair days all the time!) she won't
see beyond your appearance.
Arrive on time
The worst thing you can do is turn up late.
Turning up late will send out all the wrong
impressions. Women always assume the worst
and one of the worst is turning up late, not
only will she think that she has been stood
up, but will also think that you are
unreliable. If you are picking her up from
her home then it is advisable to turn up 5
minutes before you are due, any earlier she
will be adjusting her make up or still
getting ready and won't want you to see her
half finished.
Be a Gentleman
Hold the door open for her, let her walk
through the doors first, pull out her chair,
be polite to her and people around you.
Women like to feel special and by treating
her like a lady she will think you are
fantastic.
Compliment Her
The first thing to say to her is "You look
beautiful" before you even ask how she is.
Keep up the compliments throughout your
date, but don't go overboard. A woman loves
to be complimented, feel sexy,
gorgeous/beautiful and know that you are
attracted to her.
Listen to her and ask questions
Nobody wants to spend the whole night
listening to someone talk about themselves,
or not listening to what the other person is
saying. But you do have to get to know each
other. Ask her questions, but more
importantly listen to what she has to say.
I remember once, while I was sitting in a
restaurant waiting for some friends, there
was a man and women sitting at the table
next to mine and I couldn't help overhearing
their conversation (him talking of himself).
I could tell it was their first date from
what he was telling her about himself. "I
play Sunday league football, I like boxing".
He went on like this for about 10 minutes
without stopping, or asking her any
questions about herself. That day left an
impact on me, and every time I went on a
date, I have been conscious of the woman and
took an interest in what she had to say.
This is probably the best bit of advice I
could give.
Prepare
The last thing you want is to be sitting
having a meal, and the conversation dries
up. Think about your date and what you would
like to know about her and in return what
you would like her to know about you. Try
and think of any questions that she might
ask you so that you can prepare the answer.
You may think that it is easy to talk and
that you will not run out of questions to
ask, or that you will automatically have the
answers, but until you are there, and in the
situation, you will have no idea what to
expect. You can avoid all of this by meeting
for a quick drink then go on to see a film,
so at least you will have something to talk
about.
Who will pay?
This is a really tough question considering
women are now more independent and like to
pay their way. I suggest that you offer to
pay and if she lets you then pay. If she
wants to pay, you can suggest that you want
to at least pay for half the bill.
The goodnight kiss
Some women prefer not to kiss after a date,
others are disappointed if the guy doesn't
even try. There is no easy answer to this.
The only answer I can come up with is wait
until either she makes the first move or
that you both know when you are ready. Watch
for body language and little touches, but I
would not advice sex on the first date
unless she wants to.
I'll call you
Only tell her that you will call her, if you
mean it and intend on seeing her again. This
is an awkward situation and most of the time
the easiest solution is to take her number
and tell her you will call her, but don't if
you are not interested. When saying goodbye
just say "It was nice meeting you" and wish
her luck or you could just say "Goodnight",
smile and walk away. But if you do like her
and are interested, then you have to let
her know.
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