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First Date Do's and Don'ts
First dates are very nerve racking and often
leave us shy, silent and blowing our chances
of getting a second one because we weren't
prepared for this one. Here are some
pointers to help you get the best start and
make a good impression.
Do
1. Be on time
- The last thing you want to do is make a
bad impression on your date. If you are late
they will think that you don't care and
worse still might not hang around for you to
turn up.
2. Make your partner feel comfortable
- We all feel like a bag of nerves on our
first date with someone; so by making them
feel comfortable you will also be able to
relax and enjoy yourself.
3. Be an interesting date
- The worse thing you can do is turn up for
a date with someone then sit there all night
and talk. Worse still talking and not making
sense or having nothing good to talk about.
4. Laugh at their jokes
- Even if you have heard the joke 100 times
or more (or it just isn't funny at all)
laughing along with them will make them feel
you are interested in them.
5. Keep the conversation alive
- That dreaded silence when no one knows
what to say can seem to last for a life time
and will make both of you think the other is
boring. Jot down a few questions you would
like to ask. Practicing for the date can
make all the difference and once you have
started the rest will just follow. Here are
a few conversation starters you could use.
6. Take an interest in them
- Listen to them when they are talking. Be
interested in what they have to say and show
how interested you are by asking them
questions about what they like to do etc..
7. Take them somewhere unique
- First dates don't just have to be about
going to the cinema or to a restaurant for a
nice meal. You will make a longer, lasting
impression if you are imaginative with your
date.
8. Be confident
- Confidence says a lot about a person.
Being more confident will help you get
through that first date with ease.
9. Be yourself
- You won't fool anyone by pretending to be
someone you are not. If you want to continue
seeing them, the real you will come out
eventually and they may no longer be
interested.
10. Most importantly
- STAY SAFE. Check out our guide to
dating safely
Don't
1. Be late
- First impressions count and if you are
late this will make them think of you are
lazy, or lack of responsibility, etc..
2. Talk about yourself all night
- There is nothing worse then a person that
loves to talk about themselves all the time.
How vain can you get?
3. Talk about past relationships all night - May be that's how you lost the last one. Nobody wants to hear you
drone on about your ex and what they did or
didn't do. Concentrate on this one and see
if you can get to the second date.
4. Eat with your mouth open
- Just the thought of it makes my stomach
turn so save your date the horrible
experience.
5. Ask too many personal questions
- This is your first date and they won't
want to reveal to much about themselves just
yet. If you like each other and want to
continue with the relationship then there
will be plenty of time to ask questions.
6. Try to be something you are not
- You will only attract the way that you act
and if that is not the real you, when the
real you does come out the other person may
not be interested. Find someone that will
want you for you not for what you are
pretending to be.
7. Forget to thank them for the date
- Not only is this good manners but this is
where you will get your chance to end it if
you are not interested or for you to ask
them out on another date if you would like
to see them again.
8. Propose marriage or kids
- Unless you don't want to see them again.
9. Pursue sex
- after your partner has said no.
10. Don't get drunk
- You don't want to spend half the night in
the toilet vomiting and your date won't
think much of you. You can also put yourself
at risk of unwanted advances and will not be
in the right frame of mind or body to do
anything about it.
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