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Blind Date Basics
Your friend has just set you up with a guy
you have never met and know nothing about,
except what she has told you. You have those
fears. What if I don't like him or what if I
like him but he doesn't like me. Well don't
worry, we are here to help.
Keep an open mind
Remember this is a blind date. You have
never seen this guy before. Don't form a
mental image of him or have high
expectations. You will only be disappointed
if he is not how you imagined. You will know
within the first few minutes whether you are
attracted to him or not.
Keep it short, but sweet
Don't arrange to meet at the cinema, for
dinner or anywhere else that could keep you
together for more than an hour. Arrange to
meet up for a coffee or during your lunch
break. If you are not interested in the guy
then you can make a quick exit. If you have
only agreed to meet for half an hour or an
hour, and if you do like him, then you can
stay where you are or arrange to meet up
again.
Way out
It is crucial, when on a blind date that you
have an escape route. You could get a friend
to call you 30 minutes into the date and if
you don't like him you can make an excuse
and leave.
If you do like him then you can tell your
friend to call you back later. (Remember to
always let someone know where you are.) You
could tell him that you promised your friend
you’d go shopping an hour after you and he
planned to meet.
If the date is going well, pretend to go
call her to let her know that "you’re not up
to going shopping." You could get some
friends to turn up at the meeting point, and
if things aren't going well you can leave
with them, however, if things are going well
tell them you will meet up with them later.
Meet ‘n’ Greet
One of the biggest mistakes people make when
going on a blind date is trying to be
someone their not.
When meeting someone for the first time, be
yourself. Your personality will shine
through only if you’re not trying to be
something you aren’t. While first
impressions are important, do not feel the
need to wear heels on a Sunday if you’d
normally wear flip-flop sandals. He wants to
know who you are; not who you think he wants
you to be.
Better safe than sorry
While going on a blind date can be exciting
and fun, remember that you have no firsthand
knowledge about the person you are meeting.
If you have been set up through mutual
friends, they will most likely have a rough
idea of your plans. But
just in case, make sure someone knows
exactly where and when you’re meeting.
If the person you are meeting is a complete
stranger, you need to take even more
precautions. Make sure someone knows your
whereabouts, knows the name of the person
you will be meeting, and how long the date
is scheduled for. You may want to have a
friend join you, or "run into you" about 15
minutes into the date to check up on you.
Who's paying?
Make it clear from the start if you intend
to pay for half of everything. You may not
want to feel like you owe the guy anything.
Goodbye
Parting after a blind date has the potential
to be very awkward, but it doesn’t have to
be! Should you kiss him, if you like him?
Should you tell him you aren’t interested?
It’s always best to do whatever you think
feels right. If you are interested in going
out with him again, make sure he knows it
and tell him that you will call. If you
aren’t interested in seeing him again, make
sure that you let him know. It’s better to
be honest then stringing him along under
false hopes.
Getting to know him
Pay close attention to the things he says,
which can reveal a lot. Discussing taste in
music, film, food, and art can be a great
way to find out if you have common
interests—or nothing in common at all!
You should also look for common "warning
signs" when on a blind date. If the guy does
any of the following, watch out!
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Talks about his ex-girlfriend throughout the date.
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Doesn’t offer to pay for the first date (or the
second, or third…)
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Speaks badly about his mother or ex-girlfriends.
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Treats the waiters, staff rudely or doesn’t offer a
tip.
Remember, not everyone's tastes are the same
and there will be things about a guy that
you do not like, such as baldness, lack of
hygiene etc.. These are your own warning
signs so don't ignore them.
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